Self-Love Reclamation: 3 Tips to Overcome the Grip of Narcissistic Love
The red flags of Narcissistic relationships
Red light, Green light, red light, Green light…… Go! Everything about him was like a fairy tale. After years of relentless self-improvement and hard work, I was at the peak of my personal and professional life, my body a well-oiled machine exuding vitality. Then he appeared, a captivating distraction, seemingly straight out of a storybook, with the ability to make my every wish his command. I was enraptured, caught in a spell, losing all track of time.
But as swiftly as the magic unfurled, the fairytale facade began to crumble. What was once enchanting turned. His affections oscillated between scorching heat and icy indifference. I found myself tiptoeing through a minefield, the fragility of our love exposing itself; the illusion of safety was shattered. The very ground beneath me shook as I came face-to-face with the harrowing truth: I had been love-bombed and slowly manipulated into relinquishing the very essence of my being.
What Are The Signs of Narcissistic Abuse
The effects of narcissistic love are akin to an emotional wrecking ball and are devastating to the emotional architecture of our personal identity. Leaving behind a shell of behaviors desired for effective use by narcissists. It may seem inconceivable to those unacquainted with such dynamics, but the slow erosion of the ‘individual self’ is a hallmark of the narcissist’s playbook. It’s a pathological, carefully orchestrated symphony of emotional abuse.
This is the #1 reason that narcissism has become such a buzzword; it’s easy to recognize the tactics of emotional neglect within the popular Archetype that is the Narcissist. Similar to real-life energy vampires, they feed on the attention of others. Countless articles and Instagram reels dissect the narcissist’s behavior, but my friend, ‘Screw Them,’ let’s talk about you.
Your greatest strength in healing after this kind of unhealthy love comes when you physically and mentally disconnect from them and reconnect with your own internal source. It can be hard to find a starting place when your body and mind have been so starved for the love you truly deserve.
How To Start Healing From Narcissistic Abuse
My Name is AzLynn I am an alignment and embodiment guide with over 16 years of experience retraining the body, specializing in long-term chronic pain. In my practice, I found our emotions are embedded in the physical memory of our bodies. Often, we react from an unconscious place that makes reclaiming ourselves and our story much more difficult, regardless of the battle. Here are a few tips to help ease the transition and heal the emotional architecture after emotional neglect.
1. Stop The Energetic & Emotional Drain:
The echoes of the narcissist’s influence linger, whispering tales of self-doubt and self-abandonment amidst the internal struggles. One question can truly break these chains: “Whose peace am I keeping?” It serves as a compass, guiding you back to yourself when the urge to self-abandon becomes too strong. This will help encourage you to step into the spotlight of your own story. In this reclamation, the main character within you takes center stage, illuminated by the fearless glow of self-love and true resilience.
When you find yourself feeling pressured to go against your own needs, remember that question. While the desire to reclaim your voice may be strong, it’s not necessary; the narcissistic partner relies on your participation to manipulate. In this circumstance, don’t give them your stage to stand on.
2. Reprioritize Your Needs:
The volatile dance between affection and neglect weaves a web of constant highs and lows, ensnaring the body in a highly addictive cycle. The constant vigilance and careful tiptoeing chips away at your very essence, leaving you depleted, craving validation from scraps of affection. Subconsciously, the mind and body learn that tending to others equals safety, while self-care is a minefield of unpredictability. This brings one question to mind….. is it really love if it requires you to abandon who you are? Now that we have the right question in mind, here is the action to take next.
When you find yourself thinking of them, STOP and ask yourself: what do I want and desire right now? Do your best to stop idly thinking of them. This will trigger your subconscious mind to root back to you someone actually capable of fulfilling your needs with love and empathy. The beauty of this is the life-affirming flow you’re about to fall into as the main character of your story. Real self-discovery begins the moment you free up your mind and make room for yourself. Your body and the vibrancy of your life are about to drastically change for the better.
3. Strengthen In Community:
In the wake of a narcissistic love affair, isolation becomes a weapon of choice, a means for the perpetrator to tighten their grip. As the relationship deepens, your once vibrant circle of friends and family is gradually dismantled by slander, accusations and refusals to be in the same room. However, within a supportive community lies a lifeline, a chorus of voices echoing your worth, dispelling the doubts sown by a manipulative partner.
Re-engage in your hobbies and habits that include a strong foundation of community. Schedule a game night to engage in friendly competition where getting answers wrong or right is always supported. Gather your people regularly where open conversation is at the center. This will allow you to begin to strengthen your voice after being silenced for so long.
You Are Not Alone Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse.
The journey toward self-love reclamation is a testament to the strength within while embracing the determination to rebuild the emotional architecture of your identity. This metamorphosis will transcend the shadows of the past, allowing you to emerge as the architects of our own destinies, guided by the unwavering light of self-love and the resounding echoes of reclaimed truth. Following these three steps will provide a path similar to a 6-week cycle in my private programs. If you’re ready for more, please follow the link or QR code provided and join me in this month’s Ellevation session. It’s an open coaching session to help you along the way. I will see you there.
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