What’s the Universe Saying to YOU? – Wink-nod-nudge. Hug. Pat on the back. High-five. All of these can be signs from the universe you’re on the right track. Chills, goosebumps, or just a good feeling for no apparent reason.
The universe is offering us synchronicities all the time. Seemingly random coincidences. Out of the blue, cool opportunities. (As well as signs like “STOP” and “Don’t Go There!” – which is another article).
There are times when the GREAT “thing itself isn’t the thing”. It might be about:
- the energy behind it.
- the sign beyond what’s happening.
- something different than what we assume it is.
Sometimes we think what’s showing up is exactly what we asked for, and we get attached to it. And this is where we can get into trouble: attachment.
We may turn our cool universal “nudge” into something different than what the Universe intended. Coaching clients in my practice will often get incredibly excited about a THING as it shows up, it might be a new opportunity, a new relationship, or a cool new answer to an issue (“Wow! I was just saying I needed more clients and this person is telling me they have heaps of friends who need coaching!”). I’m not saying it’s not something cool, but I am saying try not to make more out of it.
“Don’t build castles in the air.” This is another way of saying, “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch.” Instead, enjoy all the chicken possibilities.
Here’s an example:
My client went through a breakup and had done all the healing work (“Yes, I am complete in the relationship and I own my part of it”) and had written all their gratitude lists: “I’m grateful for these things in the relationship” and “reasons I’m glad this is over”.
They’re ready to “get back out there”. They start with the inner work, do the mantras, affirmations, and “I deserve amazing love”. They do the things to meet the people – they get on apps, attend dating or singles events, and start meeting people.
Lo and behold, they meet someone they’re attracted to and who likes them back (this is key, LOL). This person then becomes the center of their attention and intention almost as if this new person is The Answer to All Love Problems.
Instead of seeing this new relationship with a big-picture (non-attached) mindset, they get hyper-focused on THIS being THE RELATIONSHIP. Why? “Because I called it in!”
Well, yes, you’ve called it in but it may not be what you think it is.
You may have called in someone to remind you how attractive, smart, funny, and capable you are. You may have called in someone to help you feel loved, heard, seen, and respected.
You called in exactly what you need RIGHT NOW.
You may have called in an Opener. A wink – a nudge from the Universe.
Someone to help you open your heart and mind to a loving relationship again. Someone to help you feel special, and important, and who can smooth over the rough edges left over from a past relationship.
The trouble starts when we start attaching ourselves to This Person as The One and they weren’t meant to be our One. Too many people lament and suffer over trying to make one thing into something else.
I’ve seen the same thing when it comes to money/jobs, side gigs, or Really Big Deals. Sometimes they come to fruition, and sometimes they are merely a sign of being on the right track. You know what I’m talking about – when a Big Opportunity shows up and you think it’s the answer to EVERYTHING.
Part of us gets excited about this new opportunity and starts imagining it happening (which is GREAT). And part of our mind will also start thinking about what it means, what will happen down the road, and cashing the checks (if it’s financial).
I’ve fallen into this thinking – invested in companies that were “going to be HUGE” and I’ve donated my time to start-ups that were going to be the Next Big Thing. I filmed an 18-month documentary that was going to be my Big Break.
The secret is not to get too tied into whatever shows up – no matter how amazing it seems, but know it’s a universal sign.
- Let it be amazing!
- Let it fill you with excitement!
- Let it inspire you! Let your imagination run wild!
- Picture what you’ll do with those Powerball winnings!
- Because those moments, my friend, are when the Universe is communicating with you.
We can capitalize on each of those opportunities because they carry immense energy to help direct us going forward. But not if we start holding too tightly to something that is only meant to help guide or open us. Not if we get addicted or attached to a particular FORM (the way we think something manifests).
That would be like chasing a mirage; the vision is carrying us forward to discover more opportunities along the path and ways to see our dream come to fruition. That mirage can cause blinders, where we ONLY see it.
There’s a reason affirmations end with, “This or something better.” It puts us into the ease and flow of actualizing our goals. If you’d like support toward your goals, don’t hesitate to reach out, I’d love to help.
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