Shaping Your Future: The Power of Your Inner Circle – What do you envision for yourself over the next year? Is your life moving in the direction you want or does it feel like you aren’t quite reaching your dreams, goals, and ambitions? Who do you imagine is your ideal self? Maybe you see yourself as someone who’s calm amidst the chaos. Or when circumstances aren’t ideal, you can still navigate through them as your ideal self. Maybe you recognize things you can improve on, but you are also good with and enjoy who you are right now.
Regardless of what your life vision looks like. For you to create it successfully, there’s one key component you’ll want to consider. You might be surprised to learn that the people you spend the most time with, have a huge influence on your life.
Jim Rohn famously said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
This means that those around us can shape our lives, for better or for worse. Research on social interactions and how they affect our lives has shown that if someone in your immediate circle becomes obese, you are 45% more likely to gain weight. If they smoke, you are 61% more likely to be a smoker yourself. They chose to track weight and smoking because the outcomes were measurable. But if you get really clear on the beliefs you currently have, you may start to see a correlation between them and the top 5 people you are around most.
If you want to take a closer look at how those five people are influencing you, I invite you to do a circle audit. First, reflect on your primary goals and beliefs and determine the steps and motivation it will take to achieve them.
Do a circle audit
Start by writing down the names of the five people you are around the most. Think about your recent interactions with them and how you felt. Did you feel uplifted and motivated when you were around them or drained and more negative? Do you have to do a lot of thought work to feel better about yourself afterward? Were your interactions with them genuine and true or were you pretending to be someone you’re really not? Pay attention to how you feel after spending time with a person. And ask yourself if it aligns with how you want to feel in the future.
Next, consider how they influence your dreams, beliefs, motivations, and ethics. Do they support your ambitions or do you find yourself frequently selling why it’s a good idea? Are they constantly pushing you to act outside your ethical comfort zone? Do their beliefs really match yours? Taking the time to identify who you spend the most time around, and how that influences your life, is essential for crafting your ideal version of yourself.
Audit the elusive influencer
Take a look at the media in your life and consider if it is helping you reach your goals or is dragging you down. Are these external messages causing you to think less of yourself or do they uplift and motivate you? For example, if we were to look at the topic of body image, is what you’re constantly seeing heightening your awareness about all the details of your body that need to look better or does it remind you of how useful and good your body is?
Ask yourself how you can increase time spent with positive influencers and reduce time spent with those who have a negative impact on your life. Think of ways you can increase interactions with people who inspire you, such as joining their social circles, reading their books, or listening to their podcasts. This will help you create a circle of influencers that will elevate your life and help you become the best version of yourself.
The people you surround yourself with will shape your future
Taking action and making conscious choices to move closer to your goals and dreams is an important part of creating the life you want. Start by assessing your current circle of influence and identifying who you are spending the most time with. Ask yourself how their attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors are impacting your life and whether they are helping or hindering you in achieving your goals.
If you are not getting the desired results, it may be necessary to do a circle overhaul and replace some of the people in your life with more positive, supportive individuals. Think about the qualities you want to cultivate in yourself and look for people who already exhibit these traits. Find ways to increase your exposure to their wisdom.
Finally, practice compassion for yourself and those around you, and try to find positive takeaways from every situation. With intentional effort and a commitment to personal growth. You can create a supportive circle of influencers that will help you accomplish your goals and dreams. If you want additional help with creating a life vision, practicing compassion for yourself, or boosting your confidence, click on the QR code, attend my free training, and meet me.
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