The Trauma Behind Your Negative Self-Talk – Language shapes our reality. The words we use—both aloud and in our minds—carry energy that directly influences our emotional, mental, and physical well-being. Remember Dr. Emoto’s experiment on water? This Japanese scientist discovered that water molecules changed shape when frozen and labeled with different words. Positive words created beautiful, intricate snowflake structures, while negative words caused the molecules to become disorganized and lack structure.
As humans, we are made up of at least 70% water. This means that the way we speak to ourselves and others directly affects our health—our bodies, cells, and water molecules are listening. We have the power to create health or disease within ourselves simply by shifting from fear and low-frequency thinking to hope and gratitude—even if, at first, we have to “fake it until we make it.”
As a trauma specialist, I have seen countless cases where negative self-talk—and even the way we communicate with others—stems from unprocessed and unhealed trauma. When trauma remains unresolved, it lowers our vibrational frequency, keeping us stuck in patterns of fear, anxiety, and self-doubt. Over time, this can manifest as anxiety, depression, hormonal imbalances, autoimmune disorders, and even serious illnesses like cancer. The good news? We can change our inner dialogue and reclaim our health by addressing the root causes of negative self-talk.
Understanding the Root of Negative Self-Talk
Negative self-talk doesn’t appear out of nowhere—it originates from deeply rooted past experiences.
Often, these thoughts stem from:
- Childhood Trauma: Experiences of neglect, criticism, or abuse that lead to ingrained beliefs of unworthiness and self-doubt.
- Inherited Trauma: Emotional wounds passed down through generations, manifesting as subconscious negative beliefs and fears.
- Societal Conditioning: Cultural expectations and societal pressures reinforce limiting beliefs about our worth and abilities.
- Unprocessed Emotions: Suppressed anger, resentment, grief, or shame, creating energetic blockages that fuel self-criticism and negativity.
The Link Between Language and Health
The way we talk to ourselves has a direct impact on our nervous system. Negative self-talk keeps the body in a state of stress, triggering the fight-or-flight response.
Over time, this constant state of tension can lead to:
- Increased Cortisol Levels: Leading to hormonal imbalances.
- Chronic Inflammation: Contributing to autoimmune conditions.
- A Weakened Immune System: Making the body more susceptible to illness.
- Emotional Distress: Manifesting as anxiety and depression.
Rewiring our thoughts isn’t just about thinking positively—it’s about healing the traumas that keep us stuck in negativity.
Steps to Change Your Inner Dialogue
Healing negative self-talk requires a holistic approach that addresses the mind, body, and energy field.
Here’s how to begin:
- Identify the Root Cause and Clear It: Seeking professional guidance from an energy healer who specializes in trauma work can help uncover and heal deep-seated wounds. This often involves inner child healing and addressing generational traumas energetically passed down.
- Clear Negative Emotional Blocks: Unresolved emotions like anger, resentment, grief, shame, and guilt create an energetic weight that drags your frequency down. Techniques such as acupuncture, energy healing, and somatic therapy can help release these trapped emotions, freeing your mind and body from their hold.
- Remove Energetic Attachments: Negative energies—whether from toxic relationships, past experiences, or spiritual influences—can cloud the mind and distort self-perception.
A full, energetic clearing includes:
- Removing negative energies that may be affecting your mind, body, or living space.
- Cutting energy cords with individuals who drain your energy.
- Cleansing and resetting your energetic field to allow healing and renewal.
Reprogram Your Mind with Divine Truth: Once negative thought patterns and attachments are cleared, it’s essential to replace them with positive, empowering beliefs that align with your divine worth.
This includes:
- Reaffirming your infinite value and self-worth.
- Understanding what unconditional love, peace, and self-respect truly feel like.
- Accepting love and support from yourself and others.
Techniques such as affirmations, guided meditations, and neural reprogramming can help solidify these new thought patterns. (You can check out my free guided meditations on my Linktree on Instagram or download them from my website—see the bottom of this article.) As an energy healer and trauma specialist, I also offer energetic downloads that expedite the healing process.
Cultivate a Daily Practice of High-Vibrational Living: To maintain a positive inner dialogue, integrate habits that keep your energy high:
- Gratitude: Start each day by acknowledging what you’re thankful for.
- Forgiveness: Release resentment towards yourself and others.
- Compassion: Speak to yourself with the same kindness you would offer a loved one.
- Mindfulness: Stay present and consciously shift negative thoughts when they arise.
Over time, these practices will become second nature, allowing you to naturally operate from a place of self-love and empowerment.
Transform Your Life, Elevate Your Health
Healing negative self-talk isn’t just about changing words—it’s about shifting the energy behind them. By addressing trauma, clearing negative influences, and rewiring your belief system, you can create a life filled with peace, vitality, and emotional freedom.
If you’re ready to transform your inner dialogue and reclaim your health, schedule a consultation with me, visit my website, or follow me on social media at @angela.kung.inspire and @angelakungacupuncture.
For deeper insight, check out my book, “Your Amazing Itty Bitty True Healing Book: 15 Ways to Approach Your Best Health,” available on Amazon.
I was also featured in the upcoming documentary film Pillars of Power by the Los Angeles Tribune, which will be released this fall on Netflix. This powerful film features thought leaders—including costars from The Secret—to inspire successful holistic living. Additionally, I am the executive producer of Rise of the Lioness, a groundbreaking documentary series in which powerful women will discuss what feminine leadership truly looks like. It will be released in 2026.
Let’s heal together and create a world where positive self-talk is our default state.
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