The Well F***ed Woman – Have you heard of her?
She, like an elusive entity, is being paraded in many communities focused on spiritual embodiment….
Imagine someone entering the room and announcing themselves by boldly entertaining rhetoric focused on and around the well-f***ed woman. And knowing nothing about you.
All I could envision in my head was a woman scantly dressed and oozing lustrous vibes when this concept was first introduced to me…
I mean, yes, I would love to tap into that part of my person. The part focused on play, pleasure, and what that feels like in my body.
Seamlessly, no less… what a dream!
And I was enraged that women had the audacity to carry this message to the masses on their public platforms and couch it in a way that overly simplified a rather complex thing.
Pleasure is like a dirty word in our culture. With many women being subject to guilt, shame, judgment, deprivation, labeling, and categorization in relation to pleasure and the experience of it.
While I agree that abundance is tied to personal pleasure and our ability to tap into and harness this pleasure. There are a few key details severely lacking in this message and messaging.
Can you imagine being so tone-deaf to the experience of trauma? Both collectively and individually that you tout a message about pleasure and blame the being who hasn’t tapped into their own?
Many coaches in the spiritual embodiment communities who claim to be awake and aware are doing this very thing.
Ushering in the ideology that being a pleasured woman is the ultimate predictor of success. Those out of touch with this pleasure and play are blocking abundance.
What I can tell you from both personal experience AND from holding space for hundreds of women over the last several years is this…
There are many women who long to understand and experience pleasure in this capacity. But are incapable of tapping into that pleasure due to personal experiences steeped in nuance, trauma, and shame.
If I were to ask you if you are easily able to tap into pleasure and play. Would this be an immediate and emphatic YES?
Or… would the answer to that question be a bit more complex…
How about feeling worthy of pleasure… do you?
The mess of this message is in its appearance. Placing the burden of tapping into and experiencing said pleasure on the person sitting in the struggle.
Perhaps if we readjusted our focus. Thus, messaging to the things that allow for the generation of play and pleasure. We would see an easier uptake and embodiment of the play and pleasure that much of success can be built off of.
When a woman is in a regulated state and aware of how good she feels when
- ❤️ slept
- ❤️ loved
- ❤️ nourished
- ❤️ hydrated
- ❤️ heard, seen, and understood
- ❤️ personally accepted and feeling safe in her body
The knowing and experiencing of pleasure is a byproduct of that. Not something she has to seek, chase, or get half-naked in a group of women and twerk to achieve.
Unless that IS what pleasure looks and feels like to her.
A regulated woman who has safe spaces to go to be seen, heard, and supported. Becomes an unapologetically confident woman capable of cultivating the life she desires without scratching, clawing, or fighting her way into a position of worthiness when it comes to pleasure.
Let’s stop with the theatrics and unrealistic ask that set a woman up for failure. When she’s not ready to go to that “edge” because it doesn’t feel safe.
Let’s start meeting women where they are in the name of cultivating safety.
This is where real, sustainable expansion happens.
I would be remiss if I didn’t remind you. A well-f***ed woman is actually one that’s f***ing THE system in the reclamation of her life…
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