What Does It Mean to Be Truly Happy? – A few weeks ago, during a phone call with my mother, she asked me a question that caught me completely off guard: “Are you happy?” Without missing a beat, I responded, “Yes, very much so!”
But after we hung up, her question stuck with me. Was I really happy? Truly happy? The more I thought about it, the more I realized my answer was far more layered than the quick “yes” I had given her.
Was I happy in my marriage? Most of the time. After 25 years together, we’ve seen our share of highs and lows. We made a commitment to stick it out, through the good times and the bad—a value I hold close. So yes, I was happy most of the time.
Was I happy at work? Happy with where I live? With my social life? As I explored these questions, I uncovered a deeper truth: happiness is not one-size-fits-all. I am very happy in some areas of my life and less so in others.
This introspection reminded me of a profound idea from the Greek philosopher Aristotle, who believed happiness to be a central goal in human life. He emphasized that achieving happiness depends largely on our own choices and actions. In true coaching fashion, I had to ask myself: “What is my role in this?”
THE INTERNATIONAL DAY OF HAPPINESS
As I reflected on my happiness, I stumbled upon a wonderful fact: the United Nations has designated March 20 as the International Day of Happiness. This day was created to recognize happiness as a fundamental human need and to encourage people worldwide to focus on cultivating joy and well-being.
Inspired by this day and my own reflection, I explored strategies to infuse happiness into daily routines and interactions. From fostering personal joy to strengthening relationships and improving work-life balance, I discovered that small, intentional actions could lead to a more fulfilling life. I hope these strategies will help you, too.
CULTIVATING PERSONAL HAPPINESS
Happiness starts within, and small daily actions can significantly improve your overall well-being and outlook on life.
Gratitude Practice
Every morning and evening, I write down three things I’m grateful for. This simple practice shifts my focus from what’s lacking to what’s abundant, helping me start and end each day on a positive note. On most days, I come up with far more than three things to be grateful for, which only deepens my sense of joy.
Spending Time in Nature
I’m not a big fan of structured exercise, but I love spending time outdoors. I walk three times a day—around my neighborhood, on the beach, or on hiking trails. Being in nature has a calming and rejuvenating effect, and these mindful walks help me feel centered and happy.
Meditation and Mindfulness
Meditation is a new practice for me, but it has quickly become a favorite. Spending just a few minutes focusing on my breath helps me stay present, reduces stress, and enhances my overall well-being.
Pursuing Passions
Finding time for hobbies or activities that bring you joy is another powerful way to boost happiness. For me, writing and connecting with others through meaningful work fulfills this role.
HAPPINESS IN RELATIONSHIPS
Maintaining joy in a long-term relationship requires effort and intentionality. After 25 years of marriage, I’ve learned the importance of nurturing the bond we share.
Express Gratitude: Acknowledging my partner’s efforts and expressing appreciation for the little things he does strengthens our connection.
Listen Fully: Listening without judgment or interruption fosters understanding and deepens intimacy.
Surprise and Delight: Small gestures, like handwritten notes, surprise date nights, or simply taking the time to watch a movie together, bring fun and joy to our relationship.
These efforts may seem small, but they create a ripple effect of positivity that strengthens our partnership.
FINDING JOY AT WORK
Work happiness can feel elusive, but for me, it comes down to aligning with a mission that fills my soul. I love what I do and find purpose in making a positive impact on humanity. Still, like any job, there are challenges.
When work feels overwhelming, I pause to reflect on the greater purpose of my efforts: helping others live better, happier lives. This sense of alignment helps me stay motivated and connected to my work.
For those struggling to find happiness at work, I recommend focusing on what you can control—whether it’s fostering positive relationships with colleagues, personalizing your workspace to make it feel inspiring, or setting goals that align with your values.
SHARING HAPPINESS WITH OTHERS
Happiness doesn’t exist in a vacuum; it thrives when shared. Whether with family, friends, or colleagues, finding ways to spread joy creates a sense of community and connection.
In Families: Create small traditions that bring everyone together, like family game nights or Sunday breakfasts.
With Friends: Stay connected, even in small ways. A quick text or a coffee date can go a long way in maintaining friendships.
In the Workplace: Celebrate wins, acknowledge contributions, and create moments of lightness, like sharing a laugh or organizing team-building activities.
A CALL TO ACTION
This March 20, let’s all take a moment to reflect on what makes us truly happy and how we can share that joy with others. Whether you start a gratitude journal, share a laugh with your partner, initiate a new family tradition, or bring positivity to your workplace, remember that happiness begins with you.
Happiness isn’t about having a perfect life; it’s about finding joy in the imperfect moments and choosing to focus on what truly matters.
As Aristotle wisely said: “Happiness depends upon ourselves.”
So, what step will you take today to celebrate happiness?
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