How to find your perfect SOULMATE! – Since I was a little girl, I have been told about the elusive “Soul mate,” the other half of your soul, your perfect other half that will complete you here on this earth. Where did that story of soul mates originate from? Do we all have one? And how do I recognize this mythical person if I find them? Do you remember that famous line from Jerry Maguire? When Jerry completes his speech to Dorothy, telling her, “You complete me,” all the women swoon. I am going to call BULL on this! And so should you!
How many of you have had the thought cross your mind when you meet someone, and everything just flows beautifully, love starts to blossom, and you get those damn butterflies in your stomach every time you think of them or they enter a room? I know you thought it… Don’t even try denying it. That’s my “soul mate.” This is the person that was made and placed on this earth to complete me? Right? I knew it! I knew you thought it too!
Let me break down the previous questions from the first paragraph and help you locate and then recognize your personal soul mate!
Let’s start off with, do you even have a soul mate? The answer to that is YES! Every being on earth has a soul mate! The person that soothes you when you’re sad, celebrates you when you are crushing it, sits beside you when you are lonely, holds your hand when you are scared, and validates you when you are doubtful. You’re probably thinking right about now, Jana; tell me more; I need that in my life! Deep inside, I yearn for that one person who completes me.
I have often been asked the question; surely we get more than one soul mate? Or I thought I found mine several times, and several relationships later, I am still looking for my soul mate. And of course, the question, Was I wrong, or do we have more than one?
Sadly, the answer to that is you only get one. So when I show you how to find your soul mate, it comes with a warning. Don’t BLOW IT!
Let’s jump right into it and answer the question how do I recognize and find my soul mate?
I know that’s why you’re all still reading this to find your elusive PERFECT other half. Recognizing your soul mate is the hardest part of the journey, and when I tell you it has been right under your nose all along, you will want to kick yourself.
To even believe you have a perfect other half that you need to find to compete here on earth means you started your life is broken or half of complete. That isn’t true; you were sent here whole, beautiful, and perfect in every way. Therefore, you do not need to find someone else to make you complete!
Is recognizing your soul mate part of the question starting to set in yet?
One of my favorite sayings is “I am enough” I say it almost daily to myself; it’s written around my house on mirrors, so it reminds my brain throughout the day that I got this, and I am enough! So in case you haven’t figured it out, YOU are your perfect other half; the ideal soul mate for you is YOU!
Not as romantic as meeting someone that was created uniquely for you, and once you find them and connect, the sky opens up, and the angels start to sing, and all is perfection. Yeah, that isn’t going to happen. That elusive love you have been looking for all your adult life has always been within you.
Let me just repeat myself; you are enough!
Exactly as you are, and maybe the problem has always been thinking you needed someone to make you complete when you have been complete all along.
Now that I have to lead you to your perfect soul mate, that magical other person that completes you and brings you total happiness throughout your life, what happens next? Did any of you feel a little sad at the thought that there isn’t anyone else? No other half? That’s ok; when I realized the whole soul mate thing, I felt exactly the same.
I wanted to share this article in our February Issue and start a new Valentine’s tradition for all of you to put into practice. This year, I want you to look in the mirror and recognize the reflection looking back at you as your soul mate. Then, shower yourself with love, compliments, encouragement, forgiveness, and gratitude.
Start to embrace the fact that you are all you need to be complete.
If you are fortunate enough to have another love in your life, that is just a bonus. I promise you this one thing. If you recognize yourself as the love of your life, and you nurture that relationship with yourself, you will have that love with you every moment of every day for the rest of your life, no matter what is going on.
If only we all recognized ourselves as our true soul mates and started that love relationship with ourselves, how empowering do you think that would become for you? I know you’ve all heard this before, “to find true love, we have first to learn to love ourselves.” Not only is that true, but it always makes me think of another old saying, “We are born alone, and we will die alone,” but… is that true? If we are born with our soul mate, are we ever really alone?
This article is not about disappointing you in your search for your perfect love match; it is more about opening your eyes to the ideal love match you already have and have always had. Finding love is fantastic, but seeing that love when you are very secure in the love you have for yourself is the secret that will set you free.
My final words to you are simply to stop waiting for that perfect person to complete you, validate you, and tell you how special you are and that you are loved. If you become secure enough in your relationship with yourself, the only opinion that will matter about ‘You’ is YOURS!
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